Can a Narcissist Fall in Love with an Empath? The Truth

When it comes to the topic of narcissists and empaths, many questions arise. One of the most common questions is whether a narcissist can fall in love with an empath. In this article, we will delve into the truth behind this question and explore some of the intricacies of this type of relationship.

What is a Narcissist?

Before we delve into whether a narcissist can fall in love with an empath, it’s essential to define what a narcissist is. Narcissism is a personality disorder characterized by a sense of entitlement, the need for admiration, and a lack of empathy. They often have an inflated sense of self-importance and have difficulty recognizing the needs and feelings of others.

The Traits of a Narcissist

  • Exaggerated sense of self-importance
  • Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, or beauty
  • Belief they are “special” and can only be understood by other special people or institutions
  • Requires excessive admiration
  • Sense of entitlement
  • Exploitative of others to achieve personal gain
  • Lack of empathy
  • Envious of others or believing others are envious of them
  • Arrogant or haughty behavior

These traits define narcissism and can cause significant problems in personal relationships. Narcissists tend to use and manipulate people to achieve their goals and lack the ability to empathize with those around them.

What is an Empath?

An empath is a person who possesses the ability to feel and absorb the emotions and energy of those around them. This ability makes them highly sensitive to the emotional needs and states of others, sometimes to their detriment. Empaths tend to have high levels of compassion and understanding and often have a calling to help others.

The Traits of an Empath

  • Highly Sensitive
  • Strong intuition
  • High in compassion
  • Not driven by ego and often selfless
  • Can be introverted
  • Ability to feel the energy of others
  • May be overwhelmed by crowds or large groups of people
  • May have difficulty establishing boundaries

Unlike narcissists, empaths tend to have highly developed emotional intelligence and the ability to connect with others on a deep level. They tend to be more selfless and driven by a desire to help others rather than personal gain.

Can a Narcissist Fall in Love with an Empath?

The question on everyone’s mind is whether a narcissist can fall in love with an empath. The answer is complex and often depends on the individuals involved. Narcissists tend to seek out empaths because they see them as easy targets to manipulate and control. They can also be drawn to the empath’s nurturing nature and the ability to provide the attention and admiration they crave.

The Cycle of a Narcissistic Relationship

When a narcissist becomes involved with an empath, they will often focus on their needs while disregarding the needs of the empath. The empath, in turn, will focus on the needs of the narcissist, often to the detriment of their own well-being. The cycle of the relationship can be characterized as follows:

Narcissist Empath
Seeks out the empath for attention and admiration Is drawn in by the narcissist’s charm and charisma
Focuses on their own needs and desires Focuses on the needs and desires of the narcissist
Manipulates and controls the empath to achieve their goals Allows the narcissist to manipulate them in an attempt to help them
Discards the empath when they no longer serve a purpose Is left feeling used and abandoned by the narcissist

This cycle often continues unless the empath takes steps to break free from the narcissist’s control.

The Truth About Narcissistic Relationships

While an empath may believe they can change a narcissist or heal their wounds, the truth is that narcissism is a personality disorder that requires intensive therapy to overcome. Most narcissists are unwilling to seek therapy, and the cycle of abuse is likely to continue.

The Signs of a Narcissistic Relationship

The signs of a narcissistic relationship can include:

  • Constant need for attention and admiration
  • Belittling the empath’s feelings and needs
  • Manipulation and control over the empath
  • Isolating the empath from friends and family
  • Emotional abuse, such as gaslighting or withholding affection
  • Threatening behavior or physical violence

If you recognize these signs in your relationship, it’s essential to seek help and support from a therapist or counselor.


While it’s possible for a narcissist to fall in love with an empath, the cycle of abuse that often characterizes these relationships is damaging to the empath’s emotional and mental well-being. If you find yourself in such a relationship, it’s essential to seek help and support to break free and heal from the trauma. Remember, you are not alone, and there is help available.


Here are some of the most commonly asked questions about narcissists and empaths:

  • Q: Can a narcissist change?
    • A: While it’s possible for a narcissist to change, it’s rare without intensive therapy and a desire to change on their part.
  • Q: Can an empath recover from a narcissistic relationship?
    • A: Yes, with the help of a therapist or counselor and a willingness to heal, an empath can recover from a narcissistic relationship.
  • Q: What are some signs of a healthy relationship?
    • A: Some signs of a healthy relationship include mutual respect, compromise, open communication, and a willingness to support and grow with each other.


Here are some references for further reading on this topic:

  • The Narcissist in Your Life: Recognizing the Patterns and Learning to Break Free by Julie L. Hall
  • The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People by Judith Orloff
  • Inverted Narcissism: The Neglected and Abandoned Form of Narcissism by Dr. Frank Yeomans

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